Recalling, A Nigerian lady, Faith Amadi took to Instagram to reveal how she lost her virginity to gang rapists and attempted suicide 4 times.

Recalling, A Nigerian lady, Faith Amadi took to Instagram to reveal how she lost her virginity to gang rapists and attempted suicide 4 times.

She also dropped a piece of advice to people who despair. Read below…

“My doctor once told me I may not live to be 21, I was 18 then. I had acute liver inflammation and ruptured appendicitis with hypoglycemia. .i laughed,

If I could survive, an accident that left me in a wheelchair and crutches for a year at about 10 years old,

Survive the emotional, physical, mental and spiritual pain of loosing my virginity at 17 to gang rape and repeated molestation by trusted family friends .( well they said i could never be happy or loved by anyone except them, I wish they could See Me Now)

Survive a sudden blindness causes by an unexplained spike in my blood sugar

Survive four suicide attempts( caused by the above) , the last an overdose of drugs which led to the liver inflammation.

Then I can survive anything.

Needless to say, by a miracle I survived the appendectomy and my liver healed perfectly. My mom thinks I am a cat with nine lives, a girl after God’s heart. After constantly being in and out of the hospital , facing near death situations , I can confidently say, I am not your everyday kind of girl. I have never been normal, but who needs normal when I can be abnormally me. I know i am made to break records, I do it everyday. Your future is not tomorrow, it’s in the victories of everyday. You are not your past, you are whom ever you think you are. Think wisely about yourself, for if you say you are a queen, a queen you are. Our journey in life will take different paths, respect your experiences and grow with them. It’s not always rosy, afterall even roses have thorns.”

Also, Losing your virginity can seem a scary experience, coupled with the myths you must have heard about it. Sometimes it’s hard to pick out what’s true about becoming sexually active for the first time. Until you’ve actually had a session between the sheets, the world of sex can seem both alluring and scary.

Whether you’re saving your virginity for your wedding night or still waiting for the right person, here’s what you should know before you take that plunge.

1. Losing your virginity isn’t just penis in the vagina :

There are different ways to lose your virginity. It is not just penis in the vagina. It might involve anal sex, oral sex, manual stimulation, dildos, whatever. Maybe you have this equation in your head, penis plus vagina equals loss of virginity. But what if you’re gay, does that mean you are you an eternal virgin? So losing your virginity might or might not involve penetration.

2. Your first time might be awkward :

It might probably be short and not particularly fantastic. It takes time and practice to get it right but you’ll eventually get there.

3. You might not bleed:

Not everybody bleeds the first time they have sex, though some women bleed a lot. The bleeding comes from tearing the hymen, which is basically just tissue inside the vagina. All women have different amounts of hymenal tissue which may tear or stretch the first time you have sex. Plus, the hymen can tear from a variety of things, like physical activity, masturbation and fingering. Chances are, you already tore it a bit while exercising or just by being an active human.

4. You can get pregnant and or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) the first time:

Quite unfortunately, there are no free passes for first timers. If your first time involves a penis releasing inside a vagina, you can absolutely get pregnant. You can also get STDs. So before you decide to roll under the sheets, consider protecting yourself against pregnancy and STDs.

5. Using protection will not make it less enjoyable:

The important thing is to be safe. You need to practice safe sex once you take that decision to become sexually active. Using protection will not make the sex any less enjoyable.

6. It might hurt a little :

A little pain or pressure might be expected the first time you have sex. This could because you’re not well lubricated. This means you will need more foreplay or lubrication. Your body needs a warm-up phase of kissing, touching and so on which could get you aroused and wet. But, if it hurts a lot, you should stop.

7. Losing your virginity comes with fear of the unknown :

Once you become sexually active, a late period can cause you to panic. So before you decide to lose your virginity, you should have a well thought out plan for birth control, especially if you are not married. Understand that sex can bring life-changing consequences, like pregnancy or an STD you’ll have for the rest of your life.

8. It can make or mar your relationship:

It can either bring you closer to your partner or cause a rift between the both of you. Don’t think that because you lost your virginity to him, he’s going to love you and stay with you forever. The only thing that guarantees that is caring deeply about each other which has nothing to do with you losing your virginity.

9. It may not go your way :

You might have envisioned in your mind what it will be like, mind-blowing and beyond words just like in the movies. You probably spent time planning but it might not go down the way you planned. It’s better not to think too much about what to expect or you might end up disappointed.

10. You are not how you lost your virginity

Whether your first time was good, bad or just there, it doesn’t define what sex will always be like for you. Your first time might not be good at all, maybe because you were forced or abused. This however does not mean all your sexual experiences are going to be bad.